Looking back, the very place that aided in my growth and inspiration, also stunted my ability to expand the vision I believed I was destined to live, and I am not alone. A reported 59% of millennials are seeking other avenues than traditional religion for answers. Because even if God is ready, sometimes folks are not. Church members are not God. They miss the mark. And leaving church should not be equated with leaving God when we are willing to accept these things.
Father's Day is an event that is designed to CELEBRATE fathers, just as Mother's Day celebrates moms. It is my goal to give people that space. If they choose to hold space for me during this time, I am grateful but also understand this is not a requirement. I can still celebrate my father in his absence because, memories. I can still support others in their celebrations because I understand the premise of the holiday.
Episode 1 kicks off today with an interview featuring none other than the fabulous, Erica Ware (if y'all follow me on IG, you know she needs no introduction!)! Me and the "Confidence Coach" talk it up about our lived experiences in these Black fat bodies and how confidence is a gift that springs from the beauty inside of you. No validation needed!
Being Black in this country we are well aware that the system is stacked against us. Yes, there is a great possibility that all the White men in Hollywood and the music industry who violated others will not be convicted. Bill Cosby made the mistake of thinking he was like them. He thought all of those pudding pops would afford him a freedom absent of the scrutiny given to Black bodies. He thought speaking about respectability would disassociate him from the hood and provide a open door to acceptability among Hollywood's elite. He played himself.
And then, he asked the mothership of all questions... He asked me to elaborate on my experiences of being Black. Of course, I didn't have a speech or anything put together to give a cohesive synopsis, but baby when I opened my mouth!! The words begin to flow smoother than a large mocha iced coffee from Dunkin Donuts would down my throat!